"I want to go when I want. It is tasteless to prolong life artificially. I have done my share, it is time to go. I will do it elegantly."
Wednesday, June 3, 2026
The Four Essential Phrases
"Please forgive me." – This phrase requires taking accountability for the intentional or unintentional pain you may have inflicted on others, removing pride to open the door to reconciliation.
"I forgive you." – Dr. Byock emphasizes that forgiveness is not about making excuses, condoning bad behavior, or forgetting the hurt. Instead, it is a generous act for yourself that allows you to accept the unchangeable past so it stops controlling your future.
"Thank you." – This is an expression of deep gratitude for a person’s presence in your life, acknowledging both the joy they brought and the lessons learned through your shared experiences.
"I love you." – Dr. Byock points out that we too often assume our loved ones automatically know how we feel. Actively speaking these words affirms a bond and ensures absolutely nothing essential is left unsaid.